With the kids back in school and getting older friendships are starting to have a major influence on their and our lives at home.  We all want our kids to choose their own friends who are kind and will set a good example. But, when it comes to friendship, sometimes our kids need a little helping hand when it comes to learning about what it means to be a true friend and how to choose the right ones. Your kids will start to build friendships around the age of five, but they will still make friends before then through school, in your neighborhood, and through your own friendships as well. Here are some helpful tips for parents to help your children with understanding friendship. Of course, the best way to help your children is to show yourself to be a good friend too.

Help your child form meaningful and good friendships and navigate one of the hardest aspects of school social life with these top tips for parents.
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Top Tips for Helping your Children with Friendships

Common Interests

There is usually one common thing that allows kids to become friends. However, we all know, it takes more than one common thread to build a friendship that will last. At the core of great friendship, there are multiple common interests and a mutual enjoyment of them when together. Your children will make many friends that each have their own shared interests together, but it’s important to help them understand that these are unique and that not everyone enjoys the same interests as them all of the time.

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However, we all know, it takes more than one common thread to build a friendship that will last. At the core of great friendship, there are multiple common interests and a mutual enjoyment of them when together. Your children will make many friends that each have their own shared interests together, but it’s important to help them understand that these are unique and that not everyone enjoys the same interests as them all of the time.

At the core of great friendship, there are multiple common interests and a mutual enjoyment of them when together. Your children will make many friends that each have their own shared interests together, but it’s important to help them understand that these are unique and that not everyone enjoys the same interests as them all of the time.

For Better or For Worse

A true friend will be there no matter whether you are sad, mad, scared, happy, or anxious. Good friends will support and encourage us throughout our ups and downs. It’s important to help your children learn how to support their own friends during hard and exciting times, but also to identify when their friends are doing the same for them. Help your child understand the true meaning behind jealousy and how to be excited for their friends whether they feel it or not at first.

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Good friends will support and encourage us throughout our ups and downs. It’s important to help your children learn how to support their own friends during hard and exciting times, but also to identify when their friends are doing the same for them. Help your child understand the true meaning behind jealousy and how to be excited for their friends whether they feel it or not at first.

It’s important to help your children learn how to support their own friends during hard and exciting times, but also to identify when their friends are doing the same for them.

Help your child understand the true meaning behind jealousy and how to be excited for their friends whether they feel it or not at first.


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Friendship is about giving and taking sometimes. You won’t always enjoy doing everything together, but sometimes you do those things together because your friend wants to.

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It’s important to teach your kids how to share not only their toys but activities too! Your child may feel like they’re always doing what their friend wants to do and will need your help learning how to voice their opinion in a way that won’t annoy or make their friends mad.

Check out some of our ideas for encouraging your own kids to be friends with their siblings.

Teaching your kids about sharing now will help them learn the difference between lasting and toxic friendships.

Toxic Friendships

Friendships should be built on loyalty and trust, but there are some friendships that will have a negative experience and influence for your child.

These are the friends who encourage bad behaviors and do not show kindness or respect. In addition to teaching your child about what a good friend should be, be sure to teach them what a bad friend looks like as well.

When it comes to making friends, there is a good chance that your children will learn on their own. However, there are some lessons your children need to learn to help them make the right choices when it comes to friends.


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With your help, they can steer clear of toxic friendships and learn to be a better friend themselves.


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Help your child form meaningful and good friendships and navigate one of the hardest aspects of school social life with these top tips for parents.

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Cerys Parker

Cerys is a marine biologist, environmental educator, high school teacher and mum. Realising that life doesn't have to be put on hold and you don't just have to survive whilst the kids are young she shares ideas to inspire you to LIVE with the kids, with activities to do together, recipes to cook and enjoy and family travel to make memories to last a lifetime.

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