This time last year I was pulling my hair out I had a 2 month old and a 20 month old. My 2 month old was going through growth spurts left, right and centre which as we were breastfeeding and J was dealing with not having my undivided attention and each feed was causing all sorts of problems so we came up with a Nursing Box (OK it was a bag initially but over the months it developed into a box).
From an idea that my mum had passed on from when she had me and my brother the nursing box is a set of items that can be brought out specifically for the nursing time for a toddler to do when you have a new baby. I know that one of the most popular age gaps is between 1 year and 3 years which is also the most difficult in terms of toddler behaviour and without the understanding of what is going on which older children have specifically nursing can be difficult as unless you master the art (and believe me I tried and it is an art that I haven’t got a clue with) of nursing within a carrier it usually involves sitting down for a length of time which provides you and the baby the perfect target for a toddler attack.
So what’s the in box – well this very much depends on what your child is interested in and their abilities at the time and as your new baby gets older these items can change. There are 3 must be’s for the box though
- Can be either done independently by the toddler or needs you not to move – At 18 months J really didn’t do independent play without us starting him off so we included things that I could do one handed – we had a soft ball that we could use inside, cars that used to be driven over the sofa, but as he got older we included things like wooden puzzles that he could do easily and books – lots of books, if the toys included in the box weren’t working we had our special books (his favourites pre T arriving) that were nursing books so the nursing time became a J, T and Mummy time and everyone was involved
- Can be set up quickly – play dough ready to go was great for us, I had pots on the side and as soon as T needed feeding I used to get it out on the table and J would go and play with it – we had a box of play dough tools that I only needed to lift the lid and he was good to go
- Items that are unique to this time – this was the most important part – we only brought the box out for nursing the rest of the time it was put out of the way and out of sight as well so it could neither be asked for nor be seen to get the “I wants”
Of course this didn’t always work – nothing ever works 100% of the time and our fail safe was TV time, I got hold of his favourite programmes and when it all got too difficult we would sit and cuddle on the sofa watching his favourite programmes. Some days this would be more often the case especially if he was under the weather, teething, tired but the nursing box really helped.
I can’t imagine this is the only way to deal with this problem so what ways did you cope with a toddler and a new baby ?
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